I Can Give It to Go 

By Luanne Hearn

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God.” Philippians 4:6

 Do you have that one “friend” who is especially challenging, and no matter what you say or do, it’s just never quite right or enough?  I do.  And as one who would identify myself as a “people-pleaser,” I constantly seek positive affirmation.  So, when I go through one of those rough encounters with this friend, my self-esteem thanks, and I begin to question if anything I’m doing is right or enough.  It’s hard for me and the harsh comments are very hurtful.  I try to move forward with a simple response or, more often, no response.  I hope my friend is not trying to be mean and assumes I’m being overly sensitive and dramatic.  I do not think my friend is intentionally trying to hurt my feelings.

In those times, I was counseled to let it go and not pursue further dialogue, as it may only stir the pot and raise my anxiety by increasing the conflict.  A wise pastor once encouraged me to pray about it first and then decide if I still felt like I needed to confront my friend.  Guess what?  The prayer worked.  I didn’t challenge my friend and I didn’t continue to carry the weight.  I’m not sure it will work every time but for now, I am thanking my almighty Father who can calm and comfort me when human words just don’t seem adequate.  I know I’m not perfect, and I may do something (or NOT do something) about which my friend will let me know.  I’m ok with that.  God knows my friend and God knows me.  I’ll let Him handle it.

Prayer:

Holy Father, thank you for your grace and mercy. Thank you for showing me how to offer the same to others.  Amen.